Do Hard Things: Day by Day
Matthew 6:31-34 “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Nothing in my life has required me to live one day at a time like foster care has. On hours’ notice, a child is placed in my arms, and immediately becomes a focus of my life and my love. We buy clothes, figure out formula and bottles and pacifiers and sleep schedules and daycare. The needs of the first days are practical, but the future looms. Do I buy the next size up in clothes or diapers? Do we include the child in summer vacation plans? Do we have days, weeks, months, or years together? What outcome is likely, and will this child be safe forever?
It can drive a person (me) crazy. Of course none of us know what tomorrow holds, and we know that if we stop to think about it. But in foster care, the future is the parasitic gremlin of the present. It feeds on my fears and robs me of the daily joy of helping a child heal, attach, love, and grow whether for days or years. It lies, telling me that because I am not forever mom that my temporary motherhood is pointless for this child. It hardens my heart towards the beautiful restoration of families because such restoration means devastating loss for me and others who love these precious kids.
But it’s true: today contains enough. Tomorrow is not my job, thank God. It’s not my job to fret over the signs of the future, and the more of my heart in the grasp of the anxiety monster, the less I have for these deserving, precious kids.
Pray with me today. “Lord, you alone know what tomorrow holds. Thank you for equipping me for what is ahead today. Please help me to love well where you have me today, and release to you the business of tomorrow. Amen.”