FCAM: Motivations

FCAM: Motivations

{day 7} Lets talk motivations. When we do difficult things, at one point or another we’re going to have to get back to WHY. Why willingly give up sleep? Or control over my schedule and large parts of my life? Why care for a baby - as the only mom he’s ever known - knowing full well that he may leave soon? Why let someone else tell me how to parent, when I need to be at my home so they can see the baby I’ve raised and tell me what they’d like me to do differently? 

When people tell me they’re considering fostering or otherwise stepping into the life of a vulnerable child, I say start with why. What’s the end game? Are you wanting to grow a family? Are you broken hearted for these kids and want to help? Are you hoping to heal a child, or to be recognized for that? Are you looking to foster care or adoption after trying to have biological children or because you’re single? Are you not sure about an end game but know this is the next step? 

There aren’t universally right or wrong answers here. And most of us have a mixture of whys. I want to help, but I also want to be a mom. I think it’s critical to know our motivations before moving forward - it helps determine our next steps and it reminds us why we started something that doesn’t make sense to most of the world, or honestly even to us sometimes. 
Have you thought about why you might enter into the trauma of a child in need?

📷by @thearchibaldproject an orphan care advocacy organization!

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