FCAM: Fostering Single

FCAM: Fostering Single

{day 15} fostering single. I get a lot of questions and comments about the single part of single foster parenting. I want to share what I’ve experienced as the best and hardest parts about fostering single. Here’s the punch line - I think God redeems in ways we don’t expect, and I think He uses all of us as his Plan A today in this world.

Some hard parts of #singlefostermom(guessing many of these are shared by non-foster single parents): I’m responsible for getting my kiddo to every appointment under the sun, by myself and with a full time job. I’ve got one income to provide for kiddos (and anyone who thinks fostering is a money making gig can’t do math, a subject for another day). No one is required to process the craziness of foster care with from a place of co-responsibility. When I need to be home with a kid, I’m usually by myself, even if it’s 7 pm on a Friday night.

Now for good stuff. (Again, this is my perspective on why I think God is using me as a single woman here). My life is nimble and I don’t need to convince anyone else to jump when I want to. I can take breaks in between placements if I need time to myself or for my own social life. The application / interview process was streamlined bc it’s just me. I can take care of kids who can’t be in a home with a man because of past trauma. No one is competing for my attention.

Foster care is never plan A for a child. This world is broken, and God uses all of us to help right these massive wrongs. What if my life - and yours- is what it is because God has us somewhere to bring beauty and love and light to a shadow in another life or to our own? What if God has a specific way He will bring restoration to the most hurting place of your life through an unexpected circumstance? Above all, I have learned this year that God is not bound by my narrow idea of bringing beauty from ashes. Meaning and purpose from dashed or discarded dreams. I may not be Plan A for baby’s life, nor was single foster parenting mine. But we are the plan for today, and there is great beauty.

FCAM: The Players of Foster Care

FCAM: The Players of Foster Care

FCAM: Celebrating the Tribe

FCAM: Celebrating the Tribe