FCAM: Expectations

FCAM: Expectations

{day 10} brought to you by me and my #booknerd baby. This boy loves him some historical fiction, let me tell you.

Let’s talk expectations. With anything new or outside the “typical” life (whatever that is), it’s hard to know what to expect. Fear is normal. I completely understand many of the responses to foster care reveal our fears and the unknowns - what can we even expect? Will a child be violent or have needs I can’t meet? Is it safe or helpful or expected for me to interact with my kiddos’ family? What if I love this child and she winds up somewhere I’m sure isn’t safe? How will my other children be affected? What if I’m hoping to adopt and it doesn’t happen? These are real and valid questions, reflecting honest concerns. Here’s what I can tell you: if you enter into foster care, expect to take care of a child in need every day for as long as you are asked and able. Hope for healing. Pray for reconciliation and wholeness for everyone involved. Believe that God is capable of sustaining you and your other children and community through the hard. And trust that the act of caring for these children is the point. That in itself is the goal, not an outcome or milestone.

It’s nearly impossible for me to internalize this though I know it’s true. I want to control his outcome. I want to persuade decision makers. I want to protect his heart and mine and everyones’ who loves him. I want to remove any traces of trauma that can affect the rest of his life. I can’t. I can only cling to the truth that God loves him more than I do. That He has called me to care for him today, and that He has tomorrow for both of us in His hands. My expectation is God will remain who He has always been: loving, just, and good, and I will be who I always am: willing but so inadequate to fix anything. 

Ultimately, my job is to show up and keep showing up, whether I’m leaping or limping. If God is bringing you to kids in vulnerable places, He’s only asking the same of you. Don’t miss out on the joy of showing up with Him.

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